Thursday, 17 December 2009

Stress, Anger and Guarding One's Tongue

Feeling a bit stressed out lately. A lot of things on my mind. Some more silly than others. But that's a part and parcel of life. Sometimes when we are stressed, it leads to anger and anger can lead to things we shouldn't be saying. It may seem like a release but it can just add to our sins.
"The strong is not the one who overcomes people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself when in anger." (Al-Bukhari, Book 73, #135)
Messenger of Allah - SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam - said, “Most of the sins of the children of Aadam are from the tongue.” - At-Tabaraanee (3/87/1-2)
Abu Moosa al-Asharee - radiAllahu' anhu - said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the Muslims are better?” The Messenger of Allah said, “Those who do not harm the Muslims with their tongues and hands.” - Saheeh al-Bukhari (1/10) and Saheeh al-Muslim (1/64)

If we compare the problems we face, they are nothing compared to what some of our Muslim brothers and sisters are facing. So, here are a few of my tips for when someone feels tenses:
1. We should make dua to Allah (swt) and ask him to lessen our burden and help us with whatever problem/obstacle or stress we are facing.
2. We try to change our mood because when you are stressed and upset, you can't think clearly. One way of this is to watch a cute video, like this:

It was funny how the cat had it's paw over the rabbit's head. :P MashaAllah, so much love!
Once you watch many such videos and lighten your mood, you can proceed to the next step.
3. Figuring out how to eliminate the problem. If you can fix it, figure out how. Is it worth worrying about? If you can't fix it, what can you do to improve the situation or how you react to it? One way is by doing something that makes you happy that makes the problem giving you stress seem small.
4. Read the Quran and ponder over it's meaning. Read your favourite verses. Keep a collection of verses that help you and bring you peace and calm you.
5. Sleep on it. If it's something that you can't think of a solution, make dua to Allah (swt) and sleep on it. You'll feel better about it when you have rested.

If there's something that helps you, please do share. InshaAllah, you found the above advice beneficial. :)



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muslimah93 said...

Jazakillah for the great advicee! =) Sometimes talking it out helps me. Like talking with a friend or family member. =)

Nasreen said...

Aristiono - Walaikum as salaam warehmatullahi wabarakatahu, Thanks for dropping by. InshaAllah, I'll check out your blog.

muslimah93 - Yes! How did I forget talking with friends and family members? :P I guess if one doesn't have anyone to help them out, then my suggestions would be good. :)

Thanks for dropping by! :D

Amira said...

Mashallah really good advice.

Nasreen said...

Jazakillah khair. :D